Sunday, May 20, 2012

No means NO - Rape

I'm keeping this posting brief. It's really a rant I want to make to someone I don't want to maintain contact with.

I went out with this guy, he was nice and I kind of liked him. He was a bit pushy but I thought I'd give him a chance. Against my better judgement I let him come to my home at 9:30 pm. Now in my book meeting after 8:00 pm is questionable and at 10:00 pm it's a booty call. I made it clear to this guy before I let him come over that I was not interested in a booty call. He said I should stop thinking 10 pm is a booty call.

He came over and was still pushy but seemed to be respecting my boundaries for a while then he stopped. I won't give details, lets just say he kept pushing at my boundaries trying to get me to let him have what he wanted despite being told no. I had started to worry he would not take no for an answer. Finally instead of saying, "not tonight" and kindly pushing him away I used my no-nonsense voice to say, "No" and pushed harder.

He stopped.

Clearly he - like some other men I've been around - doesn't understand no means no. Pushing and coercing equals rape.  Most law is now written that a person only needs to say 'no' once for your action to be rape. No MEANS NO!

Today when I told him I have no interest in seeing him again and let him know he showed he does not respect me and can not trust him he says, "I don't think we did anything wrong." WE? Listen buddy, I'm proud of myself for standing my ground. YOU did do something wrong.

Wednesday, May 16, 2012

It's a girl!

My niece was born on March 17, 2012. She is tiny and may not be wearing the cardi I made until late summer or early fall, I hope it isn't too warm. I also made a blanket, booties and a hat. The blanket is lacy so it should be fine to use all summer.

They named her Necia. (Neesha)